If you missed it or you want to recap, here is Part 1 and Part 2 of the Modern Family Series
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“I chose you”. We need to understand that building a relationship is based on a choice. This is the foundation of all true lasting relationships. Most relationships are built on “you chose me” rather than “I chose you”. Lasting relationships are built between people who choose each other and take responsibility for that choice.
You did not choose Me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit, and that your fruit should remain, that whatever you ask the Father in My name He may give you.
John 15:16
Most people get into relationship because they want find value in them. You can only find your value in God. Lasting relationships require powerful people. They know who they want to be with, what they are going to pursue in life, and how they are going to go after it.
Powerless people:
Powerless people have a deep need to suppress and assuage their abiding fear—fear of loss, pain, death, abandonment, and more. But because they do not have the power deal with their fear, their only hope is to persuade other people to do it for them.
Powerless language:
- I can’t
- I have to
- I’ll try
Powerlessness is rooted in the belief that “I don’t have power to manage myself”. Powerless people approach relationships as consumers. They are always looking for other people who have resources of love, happiness, joy, and comfort to offer in a relationship to share with them, because they don’t have any.
Powerless people dynamic:
- Victim
- Bad guy
- Rescuer
Powerful people:
They know that their job is not to control others. Their job is to control themselves. They consciously and deliberately create the environment they want to live in. They deliberately set the standard for how they expect to be treated by the way they treat others.
Powerful people refuse to be infected, affected or be victims of others or their environment. They demand people around them to be powerful too.
Powerful people questions:
- What are you going to do about it?
- What have you done?
- What else can you do?
Powerful people offer themselves and others 1 option:
- Become powerful
- Make choices
- Control yourself
Powerful people can be who they say they are on a consistent basis. They can say “yes” and “no” and mean it. Only powerful people can create a safe place to know and be known intimately.
Powerful relationships are tied together by the strength of the love they have built, not by the illusion that I can control you or that you need a rescuer.
Becoming powerful:
- Recognise the cycle of powerlessness
- Repent and ask Holy spirit to heal areas of fear
- Say yes to a life of responsibility.
God has created you as a powerful person who can make powerful decisions.
